I don't know if that's helpful, but for me it's quite freeing. Recently it feels like I'm constantly making decisions that I'm not fully prepared to make. That can be a rather unsettling feeling, but really it doesn't need to be. I've come to the realization that, at least for myself, I've been making those guesses my entire life. Many, perhaps even most, of my big life decisions have been guesses. Educated guesses...hopefully. Good guesses...sometimes. Lucky guesses...probably too many.
I'm not too sure yet, but I think a lot of what this blog looks to explore is hidden in this thought. Making peace with it, getting better at doing it, and most of all not stressing out over it. While there are some decision points that are a little less rectifiable (largely the life and death sort), for the most part life is multiple choice. As in, you get as many guesses as you choose to make. If you guess incorrectly to start with, guess again. I firmly know that torturing yourself over a bad guess doesn't improve anything. I choose to see all of the stupid guesses I make as just part of the thought process for making an educated one*. In fact, I'm one of the best educated people that I know!
I think the only truly wrong choices are the bad ones that you stick with. The worst offence being to stop guessing all together.
So I guess what I'm trying to say is, once you realize that you made a bad guess, don't stress. Just make another one. Hell, make a whole bunch of guesses at once...maybe you'll save some time! After all, even a blind pig catches a worm once in a while.
Now, for something completely different:
*This can take a lot of reminding yourself to think that way, also it tends to not work until you take a little time to distance yourself emotionally from the decision if it was particularly traumatising.
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